Top 10 signs that you’re a friend, not a boyfriend
10. She’s not on her toes around you
9. She doesn’t laugh at your jokes
8. She brings up other women
7. She won’t bend to your will
6. She uses the F word. (No, not that one,but friend)
5. She stays away from you in public
4. She asks for favors
3. She brings a third wheel
2. She doesn’t lay a finger on you
1. She gushes over other men
I did not come up with this list, but I agree to about 80% of it. Take these as some warning signs that you are headed into the dreaded friend zone.
I’ve heard that from guy friends my entire life. And…I’d always agree. Girls did always seem to be bitchy and confusing in the situations I’d hear about from my male confidants. Girls seemed so complicated that their ridiculous fights and cliques were confusing even to me sometimes. I prefer male company to female company 99% of the time for this very reason. Even so, I’m older and wiser to the ways of my own gender and I’m here to deliver the message it took me 21 years to figure out:
Girls aren’t complicated, just misunderstood.
^See? Innocent little Megan Fox is just misunderstood.
Here’s a pretty typical situation:
Girl meets boy.
Girl and boy [talk/ drunkenly make-out/ fuck/ lock eyes/ etc]
Girl and boy exchange numbers.
Boy texts girl.
…and…. cue the problems.
A girl being “friendly” to a guy in person does NOT necessarily mean she wants to fuck you, date you, or even ever speak to you again. If you meet a girl and she does not text you back, or respond to your Facebook chats or answer your e-mails, she is not playing hard to get. She’s just not that into you. Here’s what she would being doing if she was that into you:
-Texting you back.
-Writing and re-writing each text to make sure it comes off perfectly flirty and interesting.
-Reading the text aloud to her closest friends, co-workers , and, quite possibly, pet dogs to see if they think it’s okay.
-Consulting Cosmo Magazine for their up-to-the-minute “guy catching” advice.
You get the point. She probably just gave you her number so she didn’t have to be rude and say no. Try not to hate her, she’s just not that into you. You should most likely stop trying to contact her immediately. If she contacts you on her own free will you know you’re still in the game.
Lesson: If she’s not texting you back, she’s just not that into you.
"Oh, she’s just playing hard to get." Sound familiar? I’m sure. While some girls are into the whole playing games thing, (and believe me, we are much better at it than guys are) there is a fine line between that and evading you. If a girl is playing hard to get, you will know it. She will be sending you mixed signals, teasing you, and leaving you playfully confused. If this does not sound familiar, well then, she’s just not that into you.
So, lets say you text a girl and she doesn’t respond, so you text her one more time, and she still doesn’t text you back? she’s ignoring you, she’s not playing hard to get. Not responding after the first text has many possible explanations, but if she didn’t respond the second time, she’s not going to respond the third time, so give it up. This is her way of letting you down, but not directly to your face. Instead of telling yourself and all your friends that your girl is just playing hard to get with you; take a hint and move on.
If a girl really likes you, she will never flat out ignore you. She will want to string you on to keep you interested, not leave you feeling slightly pissed off and confused. Being flirty whilst playing hard to get and flat out ignoring you are two very different paths. She’s chosen her path, so be smart enough to realize which direction you are heading in.
Lesson: if a girl is ignoring you, she’s not playing hard to get; she’s just not that into you
So, the other day Christine (who i will forever refer to as ch in this blog) was telling me numerous stories about guys who have been spilling to her about their “girl problems”. As she went on, we both couldn’t help but laugh when we noticed these weren’t really problems at all, and that these boys simply know nothing about females.
I told ch how I’ve been reading He’s Just Not That Into You and how fantastically funny and informative that it is. From there, we thought we should make a blog that turns the tables and sheds the light on females for males. Ta Da! Here is our blog. Here we will write about random topics, personal stories,things we’ve heard, and whatever else we feel like so that maybe someone will realize that: she’s just not that into you.